Instructions
Read Him Like a Book
Step 1:
Pay very close attention to his eyes. The eyes are the windows to the soul, right? You will be able to tell what he's feeling just by looking into his eyes. If he makes direct eye contact and holds your gaze, he is trying to show that he's interested. However, if he avoids eye contact completely, he is either trying to avoid you or he is feeling intimidated by you. A quick wink or frequent blinking both indicate interest and a desire to get to know the other person better. Also, take note of quick eye angle changes and changes in pupil size as indicators of increased awareness. Enlarged pupils express heightened physical interest.
Step 2:
Secondly, pay attention to his stance. A guy who is standing erectly with his chest out and his hands at his side is showing others that he is a confident alpha male looking for a suitable companion. This is an open stance that indicates a desire to be approached. If he has his arms folded across his chest, it may signal that he is insecure and uncomfortable with himself. A closed stance like this shows that this guy is not ready for a relationship. Also, pay attention to his facial expressions. Men typically show less emotion than women, and as a result, their expressions are often more reserved and harder to decode. However, this means that when he does show an obvious expression on his face, then it is genuine and should be taken seriously.
Step 3:
Be aware of negative body language signals such as lack of eye contact, poor posture, hiding of the hands, mumbling, stuttering, mispronunciation, extraneous body movements, and darting eyes. These gestures indicate that he is either insecure, uninterested, bored, keeping something from you, lying to you, or nervous. Negative body language is basically a sign that he is not interested in you, anxious to get away or even just nervous to be around you. If you feel that he is nervous, try to make him feel more at ease by shifting attention away from yourself. Otherwise, take the negative signals for what they are, and get out of there. Life is too short.
Step 4:
Take note of the direction in which his body is pointing. If his body or certain body parts are pointing towards you, then there is a high probability that he is interested and wants to get closer to you. Pay attention to the direction his feet, legs, knees and face are pointing. When a guy likes someone he will subconsciously position himself in the direction of that person. On the other hand, if his face, legs and feet are pointing away from you, then he is expressing a subconscious desire to keep a distance. This is a tell-tale sign that he's not interested.
Step 5:
Pay special attention to positive body language signals such as prolonged eye contact, signs of dominance, direct or "accidental" touching, thumbs hooked into his belt, and preening. When a man finds someone of interest he will instinctively adjust his tie, fix his hair or do other things to make himself look more attractive. These are all signs that he is interested in you and would like to get closer to you. If you don't see any of these signs when interacting with a male that you find attractive, then chances are that he does not share the same interest. These body language signals are very important because a man will typically express himself through subtle, subconscious signs rather than tell you exactly how he's feeling.
Tips & Warnings
Learn to spot additional signals and cues by reading books written by body language experts. Find books on the subject at the library, local bookstores or online shops like amazon.com. The more you know, the better you will be at understanding the male species
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